I have a foul mouth.
I have an offensive, vulgar, foul mouth. I drop swear words into
conversation the way good bakers drop chocolate chips into cookies: liberally.
I come from a long line of swearing women. This is not my defense; I am simply providing
the backstory. You know in “A Christmas
Story” when Ralphie describes his father dabbling in cussing the way other
artists dabble in paints? That is my
family. My sister has been known to put
a stream of words together that no living person has every thought of
uttering. While this can be shocking and
intense, it also makes me giggle. So I
guess I am childish as well.
God, in His irony, has given me a beautiful daughter who,
since starting middle school, grows fouler mouthed by the day. “Pretty girl, ugly mouth” I hypocritically tell
her. Or “boys are not impressed with bad
language” – which is a lie because I know they think it is cool at age 12. Or “common language makes you sound common.” She raises a well-arched eyebrow at me with a
knowing look that says “Really, kettle?”
There have been two times in my life where I have listened
to people who have commented on my salty tone and tried to tone it down. The first was in high school when my BFF’s
mom said she’d never heard someone so young with such a poor vocabulary. I liked her and valued her opinion of me so I
tried to clean up my act in front of her.
The second time was when Bill and I were dating and he commented on how
much I swore. It surprised me because I
didn’t even realize it. I have made a
marked effort to clean it up because it really does offend his polite Canadian
sensibilities. Although, I will tell
you, having some inside knowledge, they may be polite with their words, but
look into an angry Canadian’s eyes. You
can hear what they are really thinking.
It goes something like this: “bloody beeping animal beep stupid beeped hockey
beep beep jerk-faced beeping beepers of beep GOD SAVE THE QUEEN you beeping beep
beep beeper!” I swear this is true.
It was only a matter of time before I slipped at work and I
have. My use of a lesser grade swear
word offended the ears of a student. I
thought it and I used it to describe a behavior and it was coming out of my
mouth as my brain was screaming “Nooooooooo!”
There will be ramifications which I deserve because it was
unprofessional. This incident, while
providing me great anxiety, has also shown me just how immune I am to vulgarity
and in listening to conversations around me, I know that I am not alone. Is there a way to re-sensitize one’s self to
the shock value of a well-placed or timed cuss?
Or a way to think it but not say it?
I am no longer a practicing Catholic, but I still carry some of that good Catholic guilt around. It is now Lent and people around me are
giving up wine (!) or chocolate or things that make them happy and it makes me
feel guilty like I should give joyful things up too. Because it is a season of denial and
atonement, perhaps I should give up swearing for Lent. Forty days and nights of curse-free,
Canadian-approved vocabulary. Can it be
done? I have no idea. If it can’t be done, can I least curb
it? I am most interested to see if not
saying it aloud makes me stop thinking it in my brain.
Tonight will be a hard as there will be beer with
coworkers after work. Some people like
beer and pretzels, some like beer and a bummed cigarette. I like a nice amber ale and cuss words. I really do. It will be a real test because I am
craving an f-bomb in the same way an ex-smoker looks for their morning cigarette.
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